You probably know the advise “You should just relax and THEN it will happen” or “I know X, Y, Z who adopted and in a blink of an eye later she got pregnant” people love to give you when you are trying to conceive.

Well now that I am done trying and relaxing in the ART department, you would logically expect those same people  to tell you “Oh, NOW that you are more relaxed you’ll finally get pregnant and carry to term”.

Well forget it. Instead I get :”Maybe you should just try a little longer. I know X.Y,Z who tried 15 IVFs and on the 16nd IVF she got pregnant.” and “Sophia Lauren suffered 10 miscarriages, but made it on her 11nd, maybe you should just be a little bit more determined!!”.